Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal...... A quote I heard early in the morning.

在Facebook和远在日本的堂姐和朋友联络上。还好大家都没事。

朋友第一时间在他的statue 写着
“ mega earthquake just ocured. hope everyone is safe!
i'm safe, waiting for power supply to return and clearance to get into building. i love you all. thanks for your concern. ”

看了之后心里纠了一下。一个从来都是外表冷静不把情绪挂在嘴边的人，竟然对大家说我爱你们。当时，当下地震发生时的震撼一定很大吧。

Stay calm and drink tea

Unexpected things has been happening around my close relation that I felt a sense of helplessness. It was one after another. I hardly has a moment to catch my breath.

Maybe.... just maybe we have all reached that age where the inevitable happens.

I was remembering a wise teacher once said in his talk : "... ... and this too will pass... ..." I always find comfort in this sentence. It a wisdom I am trying to master. I was googling this phrase and chanced upon this blogpost that wrote about the same thing and the story behind the phrase.

I particularly like his afterthought.

The author was kind enough to let me share this post over here.

Extract from www.aussiepete.com

[ This too will pass ] Once a King called upon all of his wise men and asked them, "Is there a mantra or suggestion which works in every situation, in every circumstance, in every place and in every time. Something which can help me when none of you is available to advise me. Tell me is there any mantra?" All the wise men got puzzled by King's question. One answer for all questions? Something that works everywhere, in every situation? In every joy, every sorrow, every defeat and every victory? They thought and thought.

After a lengthy discussion, an old man suggested something which appealed to all of them. They went to the king and gave him something written on paper. But the condition was that the king was not to see it out of curiosity. Only in extreme danger, when the King finds himself alone and there seems to be no way out, only then will he be allowed to see it. The King put the paper under his Diamond ring.

After a few days, the neighbors attacked the Kingdom. It was a collective surprise attack of the King's enemies. The king and his army fought bravely but lost the battle. The King was forced to flee on his horse. The enemies were following him. His horse took him far away in the Jungle. He could hear many troops of horses following him and the noise was coming closer and closer. Suddenly the King found himself standing at the end of the road - that road was not going anywhere. Underneath there was a rocky valley a thousand feet deep. If he jumped into it, he would be finished. He could not return the way he came, because it was a small, narrow road. The sound of the enemy's horses was approaching fast. The King became restless. There seemed to be no way out of thi situation.

Then suddenly he saw the Diamond in his ring shining in the sun, and he remembered the message hidden in the ring. He opened the diamond and read the message. The message was very small but very great. The message was – "This too will pass."

The King read it. He read it again. Suddenly something struck him- Yes! It too will pass. Only a few days ago, I was enjoying my kingdom. I was the mightiest of all the Kings. Yet today, the Kingdom and all its pleasures have gone. I am here trying to escape from enemies. However, if those days of luxuries have gone, this day of danger too will pass. Calm come on his face.

He kept standing there. The place where he was standing was full of natural beauty. He had never known that such a beautiful place was also a part of his Kingdom. The revelation of the message had a great effect on him. He relaxed and forgot about those following him.

After a few minutes he realized that the noise of the horses and the enemy was receding. They had moved into some other part of the mountains and were no longer on the same path. The King was very brave. He reorganized his army and fought again. He defeated the enemy and regained his lost empire.

When he returned to his empire after victory, he was received with much fan fare at the door. The whole capital was rejoicing in the victory. Everyone was in a festive mood. Flowers were being thrown on the King from every house, from every corner.
People were dancing and singing. For a moment, the King said to himself, "I am one of the bravest and greatest Kings ever!! It is not easy to defeat me!!"

With all the reception and celebration he saw an ego emerging inside himself.
Suddenly the Diamond of his ring flashed in the sunlight and reminded him of the message. He opened it and read it again: "This too will pass"

The King became silent. His face went through a total change - from the egoist he transformes to a state of utter humbleness.

If this too is going to pass, it is not yours. The defeat was not yours, the victory is not yours. You are just a watcher. Everything passes by. We are witness of all this. We are the perceiver. Life comes and goes. Happiness comes and goes. Sorrow comes and goes.

Now as you have read this story, just sit silently and evaluate your own life.. Think of the moments of joy and victory in your life. Think of the moment of Sorrow and defeat. Are they permanent? They all come and pass away. Life just passes away. There were friends in the past. They have gone. There are friends today. They too will go. There will be new friends tomorrow. They too will go. There were enemies in the past. They have gone. There may be enemies in the present. They too will go. There will be new enemies tomorrow and... they too will go.

There is nothing permanent in this world. Every thing changes except the law of change. Think over it from your own perspective. You have seen all the changes. You have survived all setbacks, all defeats and all sorrows. All have passed away. If there are problems in the present, they too will pass away. Because nothing remains forever. Joy and sorrow are the two faces of the same coin. They both will pass away.

Who are you in reality? Know your real face. Your face is not your true face. It will change with the time. However, there is something in you, which will not change. It will remain unchanged. What is that unchangeable? - It is nothing but your true self. You are just a witness of change.

Live What You Love

{1} Hijiri Studio @ Etsy {2} sfgirlbybay @ Etsy

Chanced upon this 2 artworks while I was browsing through Etsy. Love the quotes, especially "Keep calm and carry on ". I have been telling myself something like that lately. Only, mine is not as refined. It was simply " steady, steady.... ha ha "
~ ~ Slow and steady, goes a long way

一花一世界

前一阵子
笔心在我的 {看风信子开花}
留了这一段话

笔心：
如果风信子也有季节的，那相信我跟不上了。
(到花圃园时，一定会询问。还没见过真正它的模样）

老是觉得花很可怜，虽然灿烂过，但眼见她一天天枯萎…
(还好，我知道花开花谢的道理。）

我：
笔心，
我想，花开花谢的道理和人生一样。
那只有刹那的美丽，教会人什么叫珍惜。

它一直不枯萎，那就和假花没分别了。

人生如果一味是快乐，
没有离别悲伤，快乐也会变的很廉价的。
＝）

我想补充。。。
即便，这分离可能会很伤
也许在也回不了过去的自己了

不过
这就是人生

•

想起很久以前
读过的一篇佛学

话说释迦牟尼在灵山会上说法，
他拿着一朵花，面对大家，不发一语。

当时只有迦叶 (印度禅的初祖) 会心一笑。
只有他悟出了佛祖的道理

这是禅宗的由来


佛曰：
一花一世界，
一木一浮生，
一草一天堂，
一叶一如来，
一砂一极乐，
一方一净土，
一笑一尘缘，
一念一清静。

这个经文，我就不多做解释了。
不想班门弄斧
可以在网上goodle google

我没什么慧根，
并不能很好的参透
这其中的微妙道理

我对那朵花的定义
就是我对笔心的回应

我很喜欢那个意境

•

To see a World in a Grain of Sand
And a Heaven in a Wild Flower,
Hold Infinity in the palm of your hand
And Eternity in an hour.

——英国诗人William Blake (1757-1827)

心怡如诗, 人淡如菊

今天从阿丹那里，听来这句”人淡如菊“。
阿丹的注解 [ 境心的气霸绝拒、著执的和平种是 ]

老实说，我对着句词汇还挺陌生的。
谷歌了它的典故来看，原来出自一首唐诗。
意境真美！

玉壶买春，赏雨茅屋，坐中佳士，左右修竹，白云初晴，幽鸟相逐，眠琴绿荫，上有飞瀑。落花无言，人淡如菊，书之岁华，其曰可读。

情绪海啸

八月的某个周日。。。为了让心情放空，我到了东海岸。

从东海岸的一端骑脚车到了另一端 (changi park connector)。企图让速度换一点痛快。。。。那天，我骑三个小时多。要回家的时候，本来烈日当空的一天，开始狂下起雨。在BK躲雨时, 听了克敏和嘉宾 Jensen Siaw 的节目。 (Jensen Siaw是一位励志讲师)

话题是［情绪海啸］

Synchronicity , 这回事儿很奇妙。

那天的节目像是说给我听的。如果那天没拿假，我也许不会听到。因为那么一个节目，我的心情晴朗不少。Cosmic attraction, 是我深信不疑的宇宙定律。也许在我下意识里, 是拼了命在喊救命的。所以老天才在那个时间，那个地点给我上了堂免费的辅导。=)

经Jensen Siaw的同意后，在这里转贴他在部落格里写的[情绪海啸]。这是第一章。其他篇章，请到：A Life Discoverer's Blog 。

Thanks Jensen

给在情绪海啸里浮沉的人。来得及的(和来不及的) 加油！ 加油！
Lets ride on the top of an emotion tsunami, instead of drowning in it.

18 August An Emotions Tsunami

Have you ever been visited by tremendous waves of negative feelings, rendering you almost incapacitated, crippled and helpless? This is what I call an "Emotions Tsunami". Triggered by a particular "earthquake" (event), past suppressed and repressed negative emotions resurfaced in gigantic waves and hit you off balance, knocked you "unconscious", and leaving you "drowning". Scary huh? Most of us have all been there, and you know what I mean. Recently, I was "hit" by one such Emotions Tsunami out of a sudden. Triggered by an almost insignificant incident, past negative emotions led by my ego visited me for a couple of days. It must have been a series of gigantic waves generated by negative emotions from more than 10 years ago. I must say it was really a huge internal struggle mentally and emotionally between my higher mind and my ego, and for several moments, my ego was the winner. Luckily, I survived with the help of my higher mind, consciousness, several key individuals, and what I have learnt from Psychology of Vision. Negative emotions coming in the form of an Emotions Tsunami is really no laughing matter. Often, this could sweep a person into the currents of depression, devastation, meaninglessness, unworthiness, valuelessness, death temptations etc. Therefore it is crucial that we recognise these symptoms in ourselves and those around us, so that we are aware of what's going on inside ourselves or in others and support with love accordingly.

How to support SOMEONE who is hit by an Emotions Tsunami?

1. Do not judge In judging, we pull ourselves away and send negative energies instead of love.

2. Do not attempt to provide solutions The person requires not solutions, but just love and emotional support.

3. Do not focus on Why Why he is hit by an Emotions Tsunami is NOT important, whether it makes sense or not is NOT important. Focus on his heart and emotions.

4. Allow him to experience and feel the negative feelings You are not him and thus have no way of truly feeling 100% how he is feeling. In allowing him to feel the negative feelings, he can "burn" and release them.

5. Support him with love Show and use compassion, empathy, care and concern. Nothing matters more at this stage than emotional support.


How to support YOURSELF in encountering an Emotions Tsunami?

1. Be aware Know that this is just your past negative emotions surfacing and this is a chance for you to heal these emotions. Only in facing these emotions and healing them then you could "graduate" and move onto the next level in your life journey

2. Spend time with yourself Spend time alone, be with yourself. In spending time with yourself, you will communicate with youself, gain insights into your negative emotions and get inspirations on how to move on.

3. Allow yourself to experience and feel Give yourself time to experience and feel those negative emotions in a safe and responsible manner. Ensure that no one is hurt, including yourself.

4. Ask for support Communicate to your loved ones what you are going through and ask them for emotional support, love and understanding.

5. Commit to bonding with your loves ones and moving forward In experiencing extreme negative emotions, our ego often tells us to separate from others and seek isolation - this is not true, not beneficial and certainly not for our happiness. Happiness is the by product of hearts joined together, not heart in isolation.

Didn't expect this sharing to come to this length. Hope you have enjoyed this posting. Share your thoughts for discussion my friends. We are on this discovery journey of life together.

Live with Joy, Succeed with Ease.
Jensen

Once Bitten

星期天在莱佛士城看见了这片“画板”。喜欢最后一句：“ Thrice bitten, go & die.” 很直接，很坦率。这让我想起很久以前看［命中］时，欣怡说的话 ： “ 被骗第一次是纯真，第二次是无知，第三次就是愚蠢。” 第四次呢？

突然想起Last Christmas这首歌。歌词里好象是有那一小段 .

要珍惜的十种人

很久很久以前，在旧的部落格里的转贴。
现在重看，还是很喜欢。

1.遇到你真正爱的人时─
要努力争取和他相伴一生的机会。因为当他离去时，一切都来不傲恕
(最后三个字，不肯定是什么意思）

2.遇到可相信的朋友时─
要好好和他相处下去。因为在人的一生中，可遇到知己真的不易。

3.遇到人生中的贵人时─
要记得好好感激，因为他是你人生的转折点。

4.遇到曾经爱过的人时─
记得微笑向他感激，因为他是让你更懂爱的人。

5.遇到曾经恨过的人时─
要微笑向他打招呼，因为他让你更加坚强。

6.遇到曾经背叛你的人时─
要跟他好好聊一聊，因为若不是他，今天你不会懂这世界。

7.遇到曾经偷偷喜欢的人时─
要祝他幸福唷！因为你喜欢他时‧不是希望他幸福快乐吗？

8.遇到匆匆离开你人生的人时─
要谢谢他走过你的人生，因为他是你精采回忆的一部分。

9.遇到曾经和你有误会的人时─
要趁现在解清误会，因为你可能只有这一次机会解释清楚。

10.遇到现在和你相伴一生的人─
要百分百感谢他爱你，因为你们现在都得到幸福和真爱。

最喜欢的一个：
遇到匆匆离开你人生的人时─
要谢谢他走过你的人生，因为他是你精采回忆的一部分。

加与减

子曰：“吾十有五而志于学，三十而立，四十而不惑，五十而知天命，六十而耳顺，七十而从心所欲，不逾矩。”

去年，我那刚过39的朋友给我讲了这段孔子的《论语》。【 为政第二】第四章。那是朋友看了于丹论语的心得。激励我，也激励要进入四十而不惑的自己。

这是收入在于丹论语的几段 - 与大家共勉之

三十而立
三十而立的这个“立”字，首先是内在的立，然后才是在社会坐标上找到自己的位置。

三十岁这个年纪，是一个建立心灵自信的年纪。这种自信不是与很多外在的事物形成对立，而是形成一种融合与相互提升。这就 像泰山上的一副对联，叫作“海到尽头天做岸，山登绝顶我为峰”。这是中国人对于山川的一种感受，它讲的不是征服，而是山川对自我的提升。就像大海到了尽 头，以苍天为岸，对自己是一种拓展；人登上山峦的顶峰，并不是说我把高山踩在脚下，而是说我站在山顶，高山提升了我的高度。
。。。。

四十而不惑
从而立到不惑，这是人生最好的光阴。一个人在三十岁以前是用加法生活的，就是不断地从这个世界上收集他所需要的东西，比如经验，财富，情感，名誉，等等。但是，物质的东西越多，人就越容易迷惑。

加与减法
三十岁以后，就要开始学着用减法生活了，也就是要学会舍弃那些不是你心灵真正需要的东西。 我们的内心就像一栋新房子，人刚刚搬进去的时候，都想着要把所有的家具和装饰摆在里面，结果到最后发现这个家摆得像胡同一样，反而没有地方放自己了。这就被物质的东西奴役了。 而学做减法，就是把那些不想交的朋友舍掉了，不想做的事情拒绝了，不想挣的钱不要了。当敢于舍弃、知道如何舍弃的时候，人才真正接近不惑的状态。那么什么叫做不惑？就是人能够自觉按照中庸的理念去思考、行事。

。。。。

{ 本文摘自新华网首页 >>读书频道 >> 书摘一叶 }

风信子二次开花的秘密

啊 愚蠢的人们啊，
为何总是对过去念念不忘，
把已死的花朵留在身边，
既对过去无法割舍，
又没有办法迈向未来
。。。。。。。。。

这是[败犬女王] 唐先生的对白。唬我，什么励志诗人的诗，都找不到这位诗人的。根本是编剧编出来的。。。。或是唐先生自己编的。。。。。。。。。哈~不过 我到是很喜欢这个励志诗词的。即便，它像是还没完成的样子。

这集的故事说到，男主角的已故女友送了他一盆风信子。他把风信子给种枯了。女友很气。不过，她希望男主角能让风信子第二次开花。当风信子第二次开花的时候，那就是女友想向他传达的信息了。可惜，她没能等到那一天。

而让风信子二次开花的方法，故事的女主角找到了。

那就是先让它死亡。

把外面枯萎的花剪掉、才能让风信子二次开花，重新复活。寓意着，要剪断过去然后才能重新生活。重新开始。

勇于放弃的勇气。

风信子的花语
“只要点燃生命之火，便可同享丰盛人生”。

像凤凰一样的传说。

我喜欢

放下

一天，坦山和尚與隨侍的沙彌要到某地去說法，
路過一條小溪，
因下過雨，河水雖不大，卻泥濘不堪，
師徒二人正準備渡河時，
來了一位穿著入時又年輕貌美的小姐，
行色匆匆，似有急事要辦，卻又在岸邊躊躇不前。

此時，坦山和尚趨前向那位小姐說：
「姑娘，來吧！我背妳過去。」

緊跟在後面的沙彌，一直悶聲不響，心裡卻大惑不解：
「平時師父教導我們，不能接近女色，為什麼今天師父自己卻犯清規呢？」

沙彌雖有疑惑，但受平時師父嚴格教導的影響，
一時間，不敢在師父面前立即表態，但心中確實悶悶不樂。

事隔多日，沙彌愈想愈憋不住，於是來到師父面前：
「師父！我們出家人是不可以親近女色的，為什麼前些日子，師父在小溪邊，卻自己背起漂亮的姑娘過河呢？」

坦山和尚聽了，很訝異地說：
「我背那個姑娘過河，早就把她放下了！沒想到你卻把那位姑娘緊緊背著，到現在都還沒放下來！」

这个故事，是说给你听的
有些事　或许　早该放下
每当你把它想起,
你只会从新伤害自己

而他，
也许早以把你放下了

事过境迁。。。。谁对谁错，
事情的真象，已不在重要
留下的－也许只有遗憾

背着回忆过日子。好沉重

也许 故事的结局
对你来说也是一种解脱。

我未必也能做得到。。。。
只是，想与你共勉之。

加油。加油。

放大倍增

昨天，权怡凤在[女人大主意]的最后一集里，
念了这一首“结尾诗”。很妙。

不管你给女人什么 ,
她都会　放大倍增 .
你给她精子 ,
她会幫你生个孩子 !
你给她一栋房子 ,
她会为你创造一个家园 !
你帶她去买菜 ,
她会为你做出一桌的料理 !
你给她一个微笑 .
她可以把整颗心都给你 !
不管你给她什么 ,
她都会　放大倍增 !
所以 , 如果你给她任何废物 ,
她也会　加倍奉還給你 !!!!!!

所以小心哦，男人
不要把废物都丢给我们。;D

清早。

清早。阿里山的布道

刚刚读了郑斌辉的部落格。久闻他的文采不错。 今天终于把他google来看看。还真的挺impressed的。觉得他的文章很“实在”也很成熟。字里行间也透露了他个人的内涵和修养。今天从他的Ｂｌｏｇ里认识了一位新朋友。他叫Henry David Thoreau。
以下是从郑斌辉的部落格里贴来的。有意思。
“I went to the woods because I wished to live deliberately.
I wanted to live deep and suck up all the marrow of life
To put to rout all that was not life
And not, when I came to die, discover that I had not lived.”
Henry David Thoreau

喜欢最后一句。。。And not, when I came to die, discover that I had not lived.　不想在死的时候才发现自己没有活过。多可怕呀！最近才和老板聊起相似的话题．十多来岁时，唯一的目标就是［我要画画，我要做绘图师］我算是做到了。那接下来呢？我还在反复思考着。。。由其当我是个没什么大志，并且不希望只为金钱做事的人。（笑）

人是不能没有人生目标的。

PS: I was pouring through Leslie Cheung films lately. Got quite a "pleasant" surprise with some of the deleted scenes. Particularly , 金枝玉葉. Its totally OMG....Btw Jo if you are reading this， Have you found your 白兔仔？

“一刹那” 是多久?

Sunrise Alishan !

偶然在网上，看到了一段有趣的文摘：
常见到“刹那”、“瞬间”、“弹指”、“须臾”等字眼，都是表示非常短暂的时间概念。它们到底指多长时间、相互之间是否有差别？

我们可以从古代的梵典中找到答案，在《僧只律》中即有这样的记载：
“一刹那为一念，
二十念为一瞬，
二十瞬为一弹指，
二十弹指为一罗预，
二十罗预为一须臾，
一日一夜有三十须臾。”

据此，可推算出具体时间来。
即一天一夜24小时
有480万个“刹那”
或24万个“瞬间”，
1万2千个“弹指”，
30个“须臾”。

再细算，一昼夜有86400 秒，那么，
一“须臾”等于2880秒，
一“弹指”为7.2秒，
一“瞬间”为0.36秒，
一“刹那”却只有0.018秒。

在写文章时，为了表达恰切的意思， 对上述概念应斟酌选用。

《今晚报》8.2 朱波波文

我在阿里山看的日出，应该有两个"弹指"吧？!

野

在网上"游走"时
被这段文案／标题　所吸引
特喜欢那个”野人文化“
一种放任吗？
读书原来也可以 很野leh.....

想起了黄宏墨－野人的梦

Serendipities

[ ser·en·dip·i·ties ] The faculty of making fortunate discoveries by accident.
Came upon this word while I was researching on children illustration. I like the idea of finding something wonderful by chance. Totally unexpected and almost " fate" like. Love the manuscript and the illustration style. Such an enchanting children book.

Book : serendipities
Copytext : Tobi Tobias
Illustration : Peter H. Reynolds

意外也可以很快乐........

If there are seasons

Caught [ 天冷就回來]preview on Thursday night. Glad I 've decided to watch it, coz I totally enjoyed the production. Its so captivating.

梁文福's songs were cleverly weaved into the the whole storyline. Especially like the part where A-Le was remembering the conversation he have had with Xiao Jing at the beach. (Xiao Jing is dead, so she is a spirit and a fragment of a memory in the musical ) It was very tender . No crying, juz very tender and warm moment =P

Thought the recitation of a poem at the beginning of the show was brilliant. Its help to set the mood of the whole musical.
I like poetry, even though I don't often understand the deeper meaning to it all. Love the beautifully composed sentence. Quite a lot of feeling and emotion been poured into juz a few short phrases.

Here is one from the musical, I think it is from EE Cumming but I am not certain.

The winter of death numbs a lover's pain,
The autumn of dreams lies awake in vain,
The summer of life sings its passing song,
And spring comes again......with courage to hope,
and go on.

" If there are seasons I would see snow, but not around here...."

Pix source : http://www.iftherereseasons.com

PS: Didnt manage to get the airtix to Yunnan on the date we wanted. =P So We have decided to go Taiwan instead.

感动没......?

前天在U周刊>>优电影的电影介绍读来的.

挺喜欢的一句话.
不浪漫的人,
可以苦心经营这种感觉.
可是感动并不容易,
他/她可不可以感动你(vice versa)
就要看有没有chemistry 了.
感动是一种不经意的触动吧?
一殺那间的触动
生活的点点滴滴
堆积而成............

Rememder

A wise man once said ,"Everytime u recall / rememder, u r rememdering what u last rememdered"..................and what u last rememdered is juz a fragment of the true event.

人生都要找到四个人

Read this article in a friend blog. Quite a interesting facts of life. But I reckon it is a little too long....... =)
人生就是为了寻找爱的过程，每个人的人生都要找到四个人。
第一个是自己，
第二个是你最爱的人，
第三个是最爱你的人，
第四个是共度一生的人，
--
首先会遇到你最爱的人，然后体会到爱的感觉；
因为了解被爱的感觉，所以才能发现最爱你的人；
当你经历过爱人与被爱，学会了爱，才会知道什么是你需要的，
也才会找到最合适你，能够相处一辈子的人。
--
但很悲哀的，在现实生活中，这三个人通常不是同一个人；
你最爱的，往往没有选择你；
最爱你的，往往不是你最爱的；
而最长久的，偏偏不是你最爱也不是最爱你的，
只是在最合适的时间出现的那个人。
--
你，会是别人生命中的第几个人呢？
没有人是故意要变心的，他爱你的时候是真的爱你，
可是他不爱你的时候也是真的不爱你了，
他爱你的时候没有办法假装不爱你；
同样的，他不爱你的时候也没有办法假装爱你。
--
当一个人不爱你要离开你，
你要问自己还爱不爱他，
如果你也不爱他了，千万别为了可怜的自尊而不肯离开；
如果你还爱他，你应该会希望他过得幸福快乐，
希望他跟真正爱的人在一起，决不会阻止，
你要是阻止他得到真正的幸福，就表示你已经不爱他了，
而如果你不爱他，你又有什么资格指责他变心呢？
--
爱不是占有，
你喜欢月亮，不可能把月亮拿下来放在脸盆里，
但月亮的光芒仍可照进 你的房间。
换句话说，你爱一个人，也可以用另一种方式拥有，
让爱人成为生命里的永恒回忆，
如果你真爱一个人，就要爱他原来的样子-----爱他的好，也爱他的坏：
爱他的优点，也爱他的缺点，
绝不能因为爱他，就希望他变成自己希望的样子，
万一变不成就不爱他了。
--
真正爱一个人是无法说出原因的，
你只知道无论何时何地、心情好坏，你都希望这个人陪着你；
真正的感情是两人能在最艰苦中相守，也就是没有丝毫要求。
毕竟，感情必须付出，而不是只想获得；
分开是一种必然的考验，
如果你们感情不够稳固，只好认输，
真爱是不会变成怨恨的。
--
你呢？找到了第几个？
茫茫人海中，你遇见了谁？谁又遇见了你